Let’s grab a seat and talk. How is the health of your marriage? If you are like many high achievers your professional success masks a relationship hanging on by a thread. You put on a game face at work but deep down there is hurt and pain.
So the question I have is WHY? No seriously… beyond the blaming, deflection, sense of hopelessness, and frustration what is the honest truth behind the relationship strain?
Personally I found a lack of work boundaries to be the source. I had to look in the mirror and realize I was the issue.
I was masking the root cause by switching between several justifications:
“I can make things better LATER.”
“Why don’t they appreciate my sacrifice?”
“I’m working hard to provide for the family!”
You get the idea… sound familiar?
I don’t care if you are in a corporate job or pursuing your entrepreneurial passion. The only thing that might change is the language choice on your justification/rationalization.
I’m not talking about this mythical creature called work/life balance. I’m talking about having clear boundaries and alignment between working and being present in the moment.
Personally, my default was ALWAYS WORKING … either physically at work, at the dinner table (while eating dinner) working on a PowerPoint, or I was at home and my mind was engaged in thinking about work.
What does that mean? My wife was getting emotional leftovers… at best.
The demands of work come with inherent structure and deadlines. I needed to create the same level of non-negotiable prioritization for my relationships to counterbalance work demands. I’ll say it again… it’s not necessarily about working less hours. It’s about being clear on transition times so your spouse can know with certainty when you’ll be present. The great thing is they can actually help you get creative on how to generate more spark and intentionality in the relationship. If you’ll get real about how you are showing up in the relationship and open to feedback.
If you are the type of person who is serious about taking action to restore your marriage I applaud you! I encourage you to get my 5 Pillars of Balanced Success framework. It is your catalyst for creating the margin required to connect with your purpose and holistically balance priorities across all areas of life.
This is the framework I used to get out of my head and change the trajectory of my life. This transformation was enabled by intentional focus in 5 key areas. These are the core building blocks helping me deliver value at my demanding corporate job, recover from a traumatic brain injury, pursue the mission of Catalyst Ignite, publish my book Catalyst, remain engaged with my kiddos on a daily basis, and reignite passion into my marriage.
Dream big & live aligned!
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